Loving Yourself Workbook
Discover these strategies to love yourself more every day!
Many people today are crippled with anxiety. They worry about everything and anything. The high tech, fast-paced society that we live in today is literally toxic to many people and they don’t really realize what is wrong with them. The truth is, it’s a mystery as to why more people aren’t plagued with anxiety – inducing stress. Perhaps some people have developed coping skills that help them get through the day without worrying.
A lot of worrying is caused by not being prepared. If you often find yourself being worried in the morning about being late, or forgetting something at home, be sure to get prepared as much as possible the night before.
Set out the things you need to take with you near the door and/or make a list to check off each morning so that you do not forget anything. Even seasoned pilots use checklists every single time to avoid missing something.
Sometimes you just have to let the “worry” flow. Set aside some time each day or for each situation that causes you to worry and just worry as much as you want to for that period of time.
Set an alarm to help you end the worrying and stop it immediately if it bypasses worry and moves onto a panic attack. Some worrying is okay but don’t let it get too far. For most people, just allowing yourself to worry will result in less worry.
As mentioned before, a lot of worry comes in the form of not having enough time. But, you’d be shocked at how much you do in a day that isn’t necessary and that just adds to your issues.
An example of this is when you cannot sleep at night due to your mind swirling with thoughts that you can’t seem to stop. Perhaps if you turn off the computer and other screens no later than two or three hours before you go to bed, you’ll find it easier to get to sleep.
Some forms of worrying come from being in the unknown or being caught off guard by something. The best defense of this is to always be mindful of what is going on around you.
If you are going to give a speech and you’re nervous, try going into the room that you’ll give the speech in well in advance of your speech, so that you can get a feel of the environment. You can figure out where you will stand, where your microphone is if there is one, and even where the exit is if you must leave.
No one on this earth is truly worry-free. This is an unrealistic expectation that can ultimately cause more worry when you start to worry about worrying.
Try to differentiate between the worrying that most people experience and the unnatural worrying that leads to anxiety. After all, you wouldn’t be a parent if you didn’t feel worried about your child’s first date or when they take the car the first time.
For some people, writing down their feelings (including their worries) can do a lot to flush them out of their system. Somehow seeing the worries and how they manifest can be cleansing.
Don’t just write down the worry, also write down how to handle this worry so that the next time it comes up, you can deal with it easier.
Taking the time out of your day to focus inward for ten minutes or so is one of the best things you can do. You can do this through meditation or prayer or both. When you pray, get comfortable and truly mean what you say and try to keep it very positive.
When you meditate, instead of thinking about any one thing, try to focus your thoughts on nothing. It might help to develop a mantra, which are some words you say over and over again until they essentially have no meaning.
Nothing can be more important that the food you eat and the body you have. Treat it right by moving a lot and eating right. Most of us think we don’t have enough time to eat right and exercise but the truth is, you don’t have enough time not to.
Eating right and exercising can add years to your life. You’ll gain more time than it takes so the excuse of not enough time is bogus. You only need about 30 minutes a day of exercise and you can eat right by planning ahead and using your crock pot and a pressure cooker to ensure that nothing takes too long to prepare. And honestly, nothing is faster than raw fruits and veggies.
You can have some measure of control over worrying so that you can feel less anxious in most situations. If you find that your worrying has passed the anxiety phase and moved on to full-fledged panic, learn some deep breathing and coping skills to help you overcome that as you learn to stop worrying as much.
I am a disabled Vet with over 20 years of experience as a Sales Trainer, Coach and Mentor. I use my life experiences and gifts to help others achieve success and wellness in their lives. Life doesn't always turn out the way we envisioned it. Heartbreak, health crisis, family turmoil, and financial troubles occur, leaving its mark on all aspects of our life. I will work with you to gain clarity on what it is that you want most in life and make proactive decisions that will bring about the change you’ve been hoping for.
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