Loving Yourself Workbook
Discover these strategies to love yourself more every day!
We’re all inferior to others in some fashion. Everyone is different. However, there’s a difference between not having all the talents and skills you wish to possess and holding the belief that you’re fundamentally flawed. How does one develop an inferiority complex? What’s the solution?
Creating an inferiority complex requires a lot of effort. It’s not easy to take a couple of perceived shortcomings and convince yourself that you’re totally incapable and ineffective. But even though it might take effort and energy to develop an inferiority complex, as humans, we’re quite capable of limiting ourselves in this way.
The good news is that you can reverse this process! But how? How do you overcome such an ingrained tendency to put yourself down?
1. Avoid generalizations. It might be true that you’re short, fat, or messy. Nevertheless, that hardly suggests that you’re unintelligent or lack a sense of humor. Make a list of your characteristics that make you feel inferior.
2. Inferiority complexes arise from wanting to be like someone else. You’re unique and you can never be a better “Alice” than Alice is. Avoid trying. You can’t impersonate someone else while being true to yourself.
3. Be realistic. It’s common to fall into the trap of believing that one perceived flaw is causing all of your challenges. All or nothing thinking is dangerous. Your life won’t magically improve in every way because you find a girlfriend, lose 20 lbs., or eliminate your bald spot.
4. Consider what you need to stop feeling inferior. Is overcoming the flaw that concerns you under your control? If you’re over 18, you’re not likely to get any taller. However, you can increase your income or enhance your social skills.
5. Have a friend list your best qualities. You don’t have an accurate opinion of yourself, but a good friend could list your strengths. Ask for examples if you don’t believe them. It’s hard to be accurate when judging yourself.
6. Control your self-talk. The low self-esteem and pessimism that are rampant in an inferiority complex are affected by the words you say to yourself. You can say things that support the belief that you’re inferior, or you can be your own best cheerleader. It’s your choice! Monitor your self-talk and keep it positive.
7. Focus on your victories. There are things that you successfully accomplish each day. Many of them are small. Getting to work on time or remembering your friend’s birthday are worthy accomplishments. Get yourself a pat on the back for everything you do well each day. It’s not easy to get through the day successfully. You’re doing better than you think.
8. Realize that others aren’t focusing on your shortcomings. Inferiority is rooted in the idea that others think little of you. The truth is that most people aren’t thinking about you at all.
Feeling inferior in some ways is common and might even be accurate. However, you’re not inferior in a way that limits your life unless you allow your imagination to get the best of you.
Focus on your strengths, control your self-talk, and understand that no one is watching. Letting go of your inferiority complex will bring you the joys of newfound confidence and freedom.
Rick Lewis is a disabled Vet with over 20 years of experience as a Sales Trainer, Coach and Mentor. He uses his life experiences and gifts to help others achieve success and wellness in their lives. Life doesn't always turn out the way we envisioned it. Heartbreak, health crisis, family turmoil, and financial troubles occur, leaving its mark on all aspects of our life. Rick is here to help you out of your rut. He will work with you to gain clarity on what it is that you want most in life and make proactive decisions that will bring about the change you’ve been hoping for. His specialties are: Self Love, Inspiration, Motivation, Self Confidence, Grief, Relationships.
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