The Daily Authenticity Checklist
Discover these 10 questions to unlock true authenticity every day!
Experts say that when change occurs, it’s important to recognize and acknowledge it, rather than trying to ignore or avoid it. Once you acknowledge change, you can effectively work toward accepting it. Some tips for dealing with change are listed here. Although some of them may seem obvious, they’re all important. It is hard and scary regardless of what the change is in your life. I have been going through a huge change over the past 3 yrs. I went from being married pregnant with our 3rd child to being a single mother with 3 beautiful children. Everyday I lay a wake worry about failing them. By not being strong enough in anything. I worry that they will blame me for the failed marriage. Yes I know it is all in my head but I truly worry about this and I had to learn to let go of my anger towards my ex. I have hurt in my heart that I know over time it will heal, but until then I learn to live and move forward. I do not blame him or me for it, it takes two to make a marriage work and neither of us did the work. I would never take back the last 12 yrs because I would not have my kids and they are my everything. Now I am learning that I have to teach them that change is sometimes for the better. We were not happy any more. Things had gotten so bad over the years that we were past being able to fix it had turned to just when it was gonna come to an end and who was going to do it. It has gotten easier over the years but I still have my moments. I worry about making the same mistakes. Whether I am able to be loved? If there was something I could have done? The change I am facing is difficult but is needed to grow and move on.
Accepting that change may occur at any time can help you to adapt when it does. Routine might be comfortable and reassuring, but acknowledging that it could change at any moment will help you to better cope when it does.
It’s better to have a support system in place before change occurs than to try to establish one when it does. Hopefully, you’ve got good friends with whom you can share problems and concerns. Perhaps you could talk with a clergy member or have a relationship with a counselor. Rely on family members for help—they’re the people who love you most and want to help. People who have strong support systems normally come through stressful situations far better than those who don’t. They also stay healthier, live longer, and are generally more successful.
When change occurs, it’s important to pay attention to your physical and emotional health. Change produces stress, which can have very real and serious health consequences. Get enough rest, eat well, and take time every day to get some exercise, even if it’s just a 15- or 20-minute walk. Reach out for friends or family members, and talk about how you’re feeling. Continue with activities that you enjoy, such as playing the piano or hiking in the woods. You might consider joining a yoga class or getting a massage.
If your job situation is changing rapidly, and the changes aren’t for the better, take the bull by the horns and do something about it. Ask your boss if you could be reassigned to a different area. Or think about looking for a new job. If your changes are occurring because your spouse has withdrawn from you and your relationship has badly deteriorated, ask if he or she is willing to see a marriage counselor. If the situation is impossible, and the relationship past saving, you may want to consider ending it. Doing something is almost always better than doing nothing because it gives you a sense of having some control over the situation.
Many of us have a tendency to blame ourselves when a life-changing event occurs. “If only I wouldn’t have let him use the car, the accident wouldn’t have happened.” “If I’d set a better example when she was young, my daughter wouldn’t be getting a divorce.” “If I was 20 pounds lighter, my husband wouldn’t be having an affair with his secretary.” You get the picture. Change will keep happening, regardless of how we feel about it. Blaming yourself when it does is not productive, and will not help you to effectively deal with changes.
We’ll all face major changes in our lifetimes. And while learning how to deal with change is extremely important, it sometimes is more than we’re able to do on our own. If that’s the case, you may need to find some help. Take a deep breath and just know you will get through it and know it will be for the better. Remember to love every minute of your life and know that everything happens for a reason and Heavenly Father does not give you more than you can handle! You always have help so don’t be afraid to ask for it.
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